We all have a tendency now and again to blow our top and rant and rave. Things just get too much and we really let off steam. As it happens, where we seem to get angry most often is with members of our family.
Anger though, like all emotions, is a natural human response, but expressing it aggressively can sabotage your relationships, heighten conflict and make you feel poorly. So how can we manage anger better and reduce our conflicts? […]
Although we know that bullying is common in schools, many teenagers however, will not let on that they are being bullied at school.
Adolescents may not want to say that they are being bullied because:
Although the adolescent may not tell you initially that he or she is being bullied, typically, there are some signs… […]
How Common is Bullying?
Bullying is an age-old problem.
Research in Australia by Dr Ken Rigby over a number of years where 38,000 students have been surveyed indicates that 15% of children say that they are bullied weekly. Of these, 5% say that they are not really bothered by it at all, but 10% report feeling distressed, angry or sad as a result of the bullying. […]
Who are these bullies and what are they on about?
How do you recognise them?
What is their basic message? […]
Who are these bullies and what are they on about?
It’s interesting to find that there are in fact, a number of words to describe those at school (and other places too!) who we might class as very, very difficult – the bullies: […]
Whenever you move from the present and think or worry about the future, you can expect to experience anxiety. You get “stressed”. Maybe you start to feel fear. You get apprehensive, become unsure or uncertain.
In other words, anxiety fills the gap between the now and the future. […]
Is it okay to say “no” to various requests? Is it all right to be assertive?
Most of us at some time or other have said “yes” to various requests and then were annoyed at ourselves afterwards.
I said “yes” and then was angry at myself; My best friend asked me so what could I say?; I am so busy, but I just couldn’t say “no”; I just didn’t feel right about saying “no”; Who else would do it if I said “no”; I’ve just got so many things on and yet I said “yes” to this job; I’m such a softie, I always say “yes”.
What aspect of our lives do we always try to stop? What is it that we use all kinds of strategies and energy to prevent happening?
The answer is — CHANGE! (Incidentally, it is not only individuals which are notorious for protecting themselves against challenge or change, it is also organizations.) […]